Language
We will discuss some general semantics through patterns of miscommunication and their contributing factors.Bypassing
Bypassing occurs when the sender and receiver of a message fail to meet each other with meanings. There are two varieties of bypassing: Same Word--Different Things and Different Words--Same Thing. An important contributing factor to bypassing includes our assumption of mono-usage. Words can be interpreted differently due to context, tone, inflection, and a multitude of other factors. To assume the words we use only have one use would be neglecting all other possible definitions the word has in other contexts. This also leads to another factor of bypassing: actor/perceiver differences. As the very definition of "bypassing" states, different people have different definitions for the same words...or different words mean the same thing.
Anger falls victim to bypassing just as easily as words do. While you may believe your actions were justifiable, an observor may feel like you were too deviant with your anger. Other employees may feel you did not show enough anger. Claiming that you were calm in a situation while other people say you were out-of-line is a clear indication of bypassing.
Allness
Allness arises from our assumption that we can know everything and say all important aspects of a particular subject. Some of the contributing factors to allness include some common modes of allness. One of these modes refers to our habit of abstracting certain details and treating those select details as everything necessary to know about the subject. We succumb to allness through the contributing factor of allowing the disliked parts of a subject represent the whole subject.
We use allness to describe anger all the time. This is a direct allusion to limiting our choice of dog breeds between bulldogs and poodles. Because our abstraction of events only selects few details, we generally assume we have full knowledge of what anger is and how to use it. We believe that anger is negative, and no other forms exist; you are either angry or you are not.
Polarization
Polarization is a differentiation failure where we confuse contraries for contradictories. A contrary is any subject or term that has middle ground and cannot be described by "either/or" statements. A contradictory is a much rarer case since it can use "either/or" in the instance of any one subject where one must occur, but both cannot. This is the most prevalent miscommunication pattern to anger. Contributing factors to polarization are neglect of middle ground, conditioning, expediancy, and grammatical form.
Since polarization has such a strong hold on anger, it is no wonder that all contributing factors affect the image of anger use. We generally use the same gramatical form for contradictories (either/or) to describe a person using anger. Neglecting the middle ground, or ignoring the space between "angry" and "calm", constructs the idea of anger only being used by people who are out-of-line. This immediately leads to expediency, since it is easier to group angry people together than to separate them into all of the other possible classifications.